Monday, January 19, 2009

It's Been a Long Time Huh ?

I know I have not kept up with my blog.I have been busy with life ,PH and all that it entails.
I wanted to share something that I learned over this past Christmas & New Year .It is something that I read and it really hit home.It's called Lesson in Contentment .
Here are four steps to develop contentment in your life.
1. Stop comparing yourself to others. When you compare your life with someone else’s, the only place it can lead is toward discontentment. There will always be people who appear to be better off than you, but you don’t know their real circumstances.
I recall counseling a husband many years ago, and he said he wished his wife could be more like so-and-so, and he named a woman in our congregation. What he didn’t know is that the woman was a functioning alcoholic causing incredible heartache and stress for her family and for her husband.
That’s why the Bible teaches it is unwise to compare (2 Corinthians 10:12).
2. Be grateful for who you are and what you have. Learning to be content requires that you stop any “when and then” thinking – “When I am ___________, then I’ll be happy.” (You fill in the blank.)
The reason we fall into this trap is that we may actually be content for a little while but it won’t last. But, more than likely, someone else or something else will come along and drain the contentment from your life.
But listen, you are unique. God created you to be like nobody else, so why would you want to be anyone else. God is perfect, and you were his perfect choice to be you. Understanding that is a huge step toward being content with your life.
And then look at all the things God has given you. So often we allow what we don’t have to so dominate our focus that we forget the many wonderful things we already have, not only material blessing, but far more important things, such as family and friends.
3. Give yourself to others. If you will begin giving yourself to others, sharing what things you do have, sharing your time and your talents, you will find yourself learning to be content. Helping others will give you an appreciation for what you have and who you are, but more importantly, you will find yourself growing content. Why? Because God designed us to serve and share with others, and until we do that, we will feel great discontent.
4. Focus on things with eternal value. The real secret to becoming content is to focus on the things that have eternal value. It may be a familiar teaching to you, but Jesus said we should store up our treasures in heaven, and not on earth “where moth and rust destroy, and where thieves break in and steal” (Matthew 6:19-21 NIV).
As I read this on December 31st.I realized that all of his applies to Ph'ers and the struggle we have with our limitations or desires to do as much or more than others.I know that we are all very special.We all help each other and we all do what we can.Individually we may not be able to do a whole lot but put us together and we can achieve anything.Our support groups ,advocacy and awareness is our way of "giving of ourselves".I can honestly say I Do Not know of one PH'er that does not give !
So to all of my Phamily.I love you,trust you and look forward to growing with you this year.
"lesson in contentment" by Rick Warren.

3 comments:

Merle said...

Very wise words Diane - if we would only realize the importance of being content.
And what you said about PHers is also so very true. I can picture Will Rogers saying -- I never met a PHer who didn't try... and the doctors and nurses who give so much of themselves to us. We truly are a unique community.
Hugs to you and remember to SMILE -- it's contagious.

Merle

Nancy said...

This is a great post, Diane. Thank you for providing a lot of food for thought and contemplation.

It was wonderful to read in the Pathlight of all of your efforts during November. Keep up the good work.

Colleen said...

This post was wonderful, and so true for many of us with PH. I'm glad you decided to write about this!

Hugs,
Colleen :)